When I was 11 years old, there was
this really hippy looking guy in the neighbourhood. He
was the guy that all the girls wanted. I had a crush on
him I thought he was gorgeous. He was dating a blonde
girl that I didn't like very much.
They were both 16. She made it a point to let me know
how ugly I was. Her exact words were "you are so ugly,
you will never get anyone as good looking as my Eddie."
Truthfully, I was. I knew it. All the boys in the
neighbourhood made fun of me.
Those words stuck in my head. They will never go away.
Then, 10 years later... His Bother and sister-in-law with whom I was
friends with, had asked me if I knew anyone who would want to go on
a date with Ed. Well, it turned out that he and his second wife had
split up and he was a single dad with one of his sons living at home
with him. Of course I jumped at the opportunity (being a single
mother myself) I didn't have much of social life. His sister-in-law
echoed those infamous words regarding my looks.
One day after work, I showered, put on my tightest blue jeans and
sexiest sweater and paid a visit to their house while Ed was there.
He use to lift weights with his brother and some mutual friends. He
came out of the basement, stopped at the top of the steps, said Hi
to me and went back down. The friend, Curt, came up the steps and
was talking to me and also went back down.
One week later, his sister-in-law ran into me at the store and asked
if I was free to go out on a double date with her, her husband and
Ed. Well, I found a babysitter and we went out. Nothing really
romantic. Just went and shot a few games of pool and had a few
drinks. Later we went back to my apartment. His brother and wife
left. How I quietly prayed he would stay. He did. We started the
night just talking. He was having pain in his back from lifting
weights, so I told him to take off his shirt and lie down. He did,
but he laid on the floor. I told him "No, lay across my bed." Well,
needless to say it was an incredible night. There was no sleeping.
The next thing we knew my phone rang, my girlfriend, who was
babysitting for me, called to ask me to bring breakfast for her and
the kids. It was 8:00 in the morning. He was embarrassed of what his
brother was going to think when he would see his truck still parked
in front of their house.
I still had a crush on him and figured that would be the only time I
would ever get to be with him.
Two days later he called me. I had never given him my number. He
looked in the phone book and called until he found me. Thank
goodness my name begins with C. Two weeks later I moved into his
house. My son really took to him. My son had never known his
biological father, we had divorced when he was 6 months old.
Two years later for Christmas he gave an engagement ring. Neither
one of us wanted to get married, after all we both had failed
marriages behind us. He had always said he would never get married
again unless his brain turned to mush. Eighteen months later, while
getting into bed he kissed me goodnight. Taking a deep breathe he
said to me, "you know, I have been thinking, my brain finally turned
In 1988 we were married. Now in 2001, we are still married. Having a
total of five sons ranging in age 4 to 24, and two wonderful
grandchildren whom we love deeply. We have been told by many that a
lot of the things that life has thrown us would have broken any
marriage, but it only seems to make ours stronger.
Our wedding song was The Flame by Cheap Trick. As the one line
states "You weren't the first, but you'll be the last." We are very
much in love. We are soul mates. Through to this day the words his
first wife said to me so long ago still ring in my head. One day I
will run into her. Then I want to know who was so ugly. She only had
5 months of marriage to him, I have 13 years and still counting.
I may have been ugly back then but as a fine wine, I improved with
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